New Relationship advice for men
New Relationship advice for men # 1
When starting a new relationship, we often don't realize that the person that we're falling in love with is not them; it's their representative. It's the version of them they want you to see because they're hiding who they are. Now, this is not intentional. It's something that we instinctively do as humans for survival. We want to make sure we're giving you the best version of who we are when we first start dating because we want this new person in our lives to be our mate, we want to draw you in. So, it's a natural animal instinct to give and want to provide the best version of ourselves to the person we're hoping we can build a long-lasting relationship.
The problem is that it doesn't last very long. And when things get real, and the representative goes away, that's when things get tricky, that's when you can feel like you've been duped, and the person that you fell in love with is not who the person is.
You want to be careful when you're starting a new relationship that you get past this representative. Try to get through the representative as fast as possible on your end and theirs. The sooner you get past that representative, the sooner you can get to the real them. That's when you can decide if this is the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with, or if this person is not for you.
New Relationship advice for men #2
The next phase of a new relationship that I think you should focus on is the values you both have. Ask yourself
1. Does this person share the same values that I share?
2. Does this person have a vision for their life that I fit into?
3. Do I have an idea for my life that he fits into?
4. What are the things that he loves?
5. What are the things that I love?
All of these things are crucial when you decide, in a new relationship, that this will be the person you want to build a life with. Make sure the value system aligns with yours. Many people forget about this part, which is one of the keys that, I believe, is a secure attribute to a relationship.
New Relationship advice for men #3
The next crucial attribute in a relationship is the strengths and weaknesses of each other. A good quality relationship is based on how the two can support each other as you move through life together. Everyone naturally has strengths and weaknesses. Everyone typically has something they're good at, and something that they have an opportunity for growth. Find out what the person you want to spend your life with strengths and weaknesses are. And how you can utilize their strengths and fill in for their shortcomings as you build your life together. It's essential, especially if you want your relationship to grow and be a cohesive unit as you grow together in your life. You will find that maybe if you're too much alike, it might not work. You might argue a lot, and you might try to fight for control over specific areas of your life.
If you're a person with a growth mindset, you can help each other, build a life that you never thought was possible if you learn to utilize each other's strengths and weaknesses. Celebrating each other's strengths and weaknesses can be crucial to have a long-lasting, successful relationship.
So this is my top 3 items on new relationship advice for men. Remember to have fun. The beginning is often the best time that you can have in a relationship. It's a romantic phase, the phrase you can't keep hands off each other, you're in love, and you're not thinking practically all the time. It's a beautiful stage. That's not to say that it won't last a long time, and it's not to say you won't have those great moments throughout the rest of the relationship. But remember to enjoy the beginning and remember to get past the representative, make sure you understand each other's values and make sure you know each other's strengths and weaknesses. I'm Robert, the gay men's relationship coach. Thank you for reading this Blog.